If you discover that your child is being bullied, don’t rush off to confront the bully, the bully’s parents or the head teacher at the school. This approach can cause the bullying to get worse.
Listen to your child as objectively as possible and try not to get angry or upset. Ask him how he wants to take the problem forward so he feels involved and knows what’s going to happen next. If he is excluded, he may feel more worried and uncertain about the outcome.
Reassure your child that it is not his fault. It’s important that he knows that he has not brought the bullying on himself.
Never tell your child to hit or shout names back. Not only is it unlikely to solve the problem, it also increases your child’s stress and anxiety if he is not confident.
Don’t tell your child to simply ignore the bullying. This indicates that it’s OK to tolerate bullying rather than stopped completely.
For more advice on how to deal with bullying, download a free Anti-Bullying Pack from the Parentline Plus website at www.parentlineplus.org.uk