Kirsti Nicole Hadley, 39, mother of Sonny, 16 months
Profession Managing Director of Kirsti International, representing DJs, event management and brand consultant and founder of Momma Loves online magazine for modern mothers.
Describe your pre-baby life? Hedonistic, ambitious, carefree.
And now? Excited, fulfilled, focused.
How do you manage the work-life balance? I am my own boss, so I can work at any time of the day or night but it’s still a constant battle. At the moment, Sonny goes to nursery four days a week, so I work all of those days and most of those nights after he goes to bed. Weekends are family time and this seems to be working really well… for now! I've also been known to take Sonny to meetings. He was onsite working with me at Vintage Festival last summer, when he was just six weeks old. He loves being in a social environment: the apple doesn't fall very far from the tree.
What has been the biggest shock of motherhood? How hard it is! It’s the best-kept secret! Motherhood is the most challenging, brilliantly bonkers adventure ever.
How has your relationship changed with your partner? It has definitely brought us closer together. All of the new memories we are making and family traditions that we are inventing are such special things for us to be able to share with one another. Don't get me wrong – we still have days when we want to kill each other (I’m high maintenance!) but I couldn't see a life without Jamie in it now.
What are the biggest challenges? There are about a million challenges every day: getting dressed, leaving the house, changing the nappy. Laughter is our trick. If you can make your child laugh then you can win most battles.
What’s the single best thing about being a mother? The crazy amount of love that you feel for your child. It blows my mind. It is the most amazing natural high. And laughing with my boy – we have great big belly laughs every day in our house.
And the worst? The tiredness. I love my sleep – well, I used to.
What has most surprised you? I was such a party girl before Sonny was born, I was worried that I would mourn my pre-baby life, but I couldn't have been more wrong.
I've always been a very determined person but I am so much more productive now than I ever was before. The days of mothers having an unreliable reputation in the workplace are totally outdated. I would hire me as a mother over me as a 24-year-old any day.
If you could pass on one secret of motherhood, what would it be? Get your house in order, declutter, be organised and as tidy as possible. It’s an effort to keep on top of things, but I promise this will make your thoughts clearer and your life easier on a daily basis.
What lessons has motherhood taught you? Time really does fly so don't forget to enjoy the here and the now.
What mothers most inspire you? My boyfriend’s mother Sue is totally inspiring. She’s very funny, artistic, hugely respected and loved. She has raised a wonderfully close-knit family that all support each other and she's always up for a glass of red wine! My friend Pearl Lowe for her commitment to family life, her work ethic, positivity, rock chick cool and creativity. She makes it all look so easy.