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Returning to work as a parent: The trials and tribulations

"I'm enjoying my return to work, but what about my family?" asks our weekly columnist, weather presenter Kirsty McCabe




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Kirsty McCabe Returning to work can be a wrench

"It never rains but it pours. And yes, I am talking about the weather. Well, sort of. In the freelance world of weather presenting you don’t want to say no to work in case you never get asked to work again, so the end result is that I have been working every day this month, weekends included.

The biggest impact has been on my family. My husband loves having the house to himself as he often works from home. He’s less keen on my requests (you could say nags) that he be more involved in the house admin such as emptying and reloading the dishwasher and helping me conquer the ever-growing laundry mountain.

So far he has surprised me by being really helpful. It’s amazing how much you realise you love someone when you come home after a rush hour journey on the tube to find the laundry is not only washed but hung out on the heated drier (so useful at this time of year).

My children aren’t coping quite so well. They’ve gone from having mummy all to themselves for a few days a week to the sudden shock of full-time nursery. Not only that, but Mummy rarely gets back in time to collect them from nursery so Daddy picks them up. Which is not what they are used to, so they are all unsettled.

The end result is that when I am at home they are extra clingy and follow me around and insist that I play games, help brush teeth, wipe their bottoms and so on. As for sleep, well that’s gone haywire.

Logan (nearly two) keeps waking in the wee small hours and is not happy if my husband tries to settle him. To avoid waking the entire street, Logan invariably ends up snuggled next to me for the rest of the night. All is calm again, if a little bit squished.

Ethan (now four) has been more vocal about me leaving the house to work. Even though he loves being at nursery it can be a battle of wills to get him dressed and there on time. His toilet skills, which have never been his strong point, have swapped from no accidents to many and back again, and he’s been having some night terrors as well.

If your child has night terrors, as opposed to nightmares, then you’ll know how horrible it is. He gets very upset and cries for me, but even though I’m there it doesn’t seem to register until he wakes up properly. At which point he doesn’t even remember being upset but is now firmly ensconced in our bed. So on the nights Logan isn’t there, Ethan is. And sometimes both (it might be time to invest in a super king size).

The good news is that they are already adapting, as kids always do. This morning Ethan even shouted out for Daddy, which could potentially be hurtful, but was actually a relief! And quite nice too for my husband who’d been feeling overlooked and overworked. Oh and in case you were wondering, I've already broken quite a few of my new year resolutions. Mainly the be patient bit.... My only excuse is lack of sleep and my eldest hiding the TV remote and forgetting where."

Kirsty McCabe writes her weekly column here on www.juniormagazine.co.uk. Follow us on Twitter: @juniormagazine every Friday to join in with the conversation.

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